D ' Debate

discontinued

2010-03-27T10:35:00.001-07:00

until otherwise.

Enhancement Supplements

2010-03-26T14:03:00.000-07:00

Even though you would like to, many days we are just not upto the level of tasks we can.

Sports players often take supplements to boost athletic performance, ward off fatigue and enhance physical appearance,to increase muscle mass and strength, even though it may cause serious harm.

Adults take daily vitamins tablets even though it could come from food.

Children with learning disabilities take nutrients resulting in dramatic improvement in behavior and academic grades.

Examining the variables of nutrient bioavailability, including sources, forms, and amounts, it is your environment.

Supplements shown to enhance may therefore become a key factor ,even with side effects, in warding off both hidden epidemics and more widely recognized conditions. The depletion of nutrients suggests that supplements can not only help us meet dietary nutritional needs, but also to benefit our health. This could also be due to lack of environment substitutions, unless you could live in space.

degrees of separation

2010-03-25T15:33:00.000-07:00

Did Shirley Jones never showed up at your event?

Stanley Milgram originally coined the term “six degrees of separation” in 1967 to show that "everyone" in the modern world was capable of connecting to another by linking people and interests.

Today’s world of social networking, links between strangers,meta,non metas....are closer or farther ?

Atleast by standards of privacy, there is a need for degrees of separation depending on the people.

It could be three . Could it be any number ?

Paying it forward may have a lesser degree of effect.

Degrees of separation in dementia brains exist.

There can be various degrees of environment for twins, triplets, sixtlets

is it sixtuplets..........

underachievers

2010-03-24T14:55:00.000-07:00

Just heard a remark that
'.......with all that, Laurie don't even have her own - book or business.....!'

Do number of us have to be a doctors, lawyers or engineers?

Do most of us have to take up, few assignments, to model, for a catalog ?

Do you have to write umpteen number of books ? or inherit tons ?

Even though Laurie may not have anything to call it as 'own', Laurie is sufficient to call it a day! When people remark or reiterate whatever Laurie would have said or done, Laurie is remembered. When friends nudge or criticize, Laurie is being remembered.Isn't it enough , atleast for time being , Laurie is not 'nobody' but 'somebody' who very few know ?

Laurie is not to become a good achiever —and it's not even to avoid being a bad achiever (does that word even exist? lol).

Rather, it is to become an effective achiever. That’s not ever an easy task!

extreme emotions

2010-03-23T12:21:00.000-07:00

Have you found yourself on the extreme side of the emotions lately ?

Either you want everything or nothing to do at all .

Either you want to be an active WWF champion or 'be still' with the litigating mouth.

Either you feel like you are a friend or feel ignored like a step-brother/step-sister.

New additions to this list will continue.....

is US really technologically advanced in 22nd century?

2010-03-23T12:10:00.000-07:00

By the end of the 21th century, more technological advances would have been made.Underdeveloped and developing countries look upto the developed nations for advancement in many concepts.However, has US really took to advancements technologically ?

Is taking notes to interview artists by pen? Unless you were surprised or awestruck by the person,
whatever happened to Ipod, Itouch and other devices with inbuilt recording applications ?

Name changes are still not efficient with the paper system. Customer care with incorrect orders still queue up the system.

States are delaying tax refunds for months.

Establish a greater 'margin of safety', really about living a good and fulfilling life, a part of which means avoiding the bad mistakes that could derail your quest to that end framework for a healthy and sustainable way.

exclude

2010-03-22T14:56:00.000-07:00

How many times have you forgotten, to include everyone, when you sent your wishes/invite on important events?

Did you forget who they were dating, if single ? or just one and forgot to mention the other ?

Did you mention only thier dates and forgot thier family ? Together is it you can or you may ?
( 'can' applies to what is possible and 'may' applies to what is permissible)

What if it is intentional blanking out of the rest, by a person who follows etiquette to great extent due to insecurity?

Sure, response could be a dead silence of 'you deserve it' followed by, if they are genuine ones who care,
'are you really that busy?' later.

If you really forgot , then it is usually numerous sending of the same message, multiple times addressed to each indivisual related to the family.

Derek says 'You can't please everyone in this world.'

non friend or non meta friend?

2010-03-20T21:52:00.001-07:00

Have you been called a non friend or non meta friend which is a byproduct of lot of different issues of social networking (online/not) ?

It is almost confirmed once you receive message of 'permanent denial' from an online group such as
" Your request to join was not approved.The moderator of chooses whether to restrict membership in the group. Moderators who choose to restrict membership also choose whom to admit.Please note that this decision is final."
Suddenly, you or the moderator is a non friend or a non meta friend?
If this group was only meant for friends, can you as a non friend or as a non meta friend join to relate only to non-things ?

Would you as non friend / non-metafriend say to moderator , "Hey! Guess what? no living being is permanent here, just so you know!"

We are, as a social network, all so awesome that we will soon not be able to type the number 1, because we will have worn out the exclamation point that shares its key:)

Knowing the mundane details of their lives doesn't even bother me. Maybe that makes me weird?

"I thought moderator wanted to talk about your metafriends.""I guess it's not the interest of the times."

The four rules (originally via lifehack.org) didn't surprise Heidi either:
    * Rule One: People Mostly Care About Themselves
    * Rule Two: People are Motivated by Selfish Altruism
    * Rule Three: People Don't Think Much
    * Rule Four: Conformity is the Norm

Lincoln roars "It is a bad day when no one clicks into my metalife…. I am getting depressed just thinking that no one will be there today for me. I gotta get a life."

Intermittent Explosive Disorder

2010-03-19T12:03:00.000-07:00

Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is a disorder characterized by impulsive acts of aggression, as contrasted with planned violent or aggressive acts.

The aggressive episodes are not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition (e.g., head trauma, Alzheimer’s disease).

The aggressive episodes may take the form of "spells" or "attacks," with symptoms beginning minutes to hours before the actual acting-out.

Later the individual may feel upset, remorseful, regretful, or embarrassed about the aggressive behavior.
The disorder often co-occurs with mood disturbances and also proactive, reactive, and relational aggression, gender differences, predictive validity, and association. People who suffer from anxiety, mood disorders, alcoholism, drug abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional/mental abuse and other mental health personality disorders are at risk for developing IED.

How to cope with life's frustrations while resorting to destructive behavior like IED is to no longer be a slave to your own frustations.

pay off your sleep debt -an unmet public health problem

2010-03-19T11:31:00.000-07:00

Increased demands in your life have forced you to Sleep Disorders and Sleep Deprivation which cuts across a variety of medical disciplines such as neurology, pulmonology, pediatrics, internal medicine, psychiatry, psychology, otolaryngology, and nursing, as well as other medical practices with an interest in the management of sleep pathology. Van Cauter has spent 25 years doing research on the hormones that are affected by sleep. She says sleep deprivation activates a small part of the hypothalamus, the region of the brain that also is involved in appetite regulation. Sleep deprivation increases levels of a hunger hormone and decreases levels of a hormone that makes you feel full.

A little sleep deprivation can cheer up patients with unipolar depression.The problem is after they go to sleep the next night, they wake up even more depressed. The link between sleep deprivation and depression isn't exactly new, but a study presented at the recent Biomedicine conference sheds light on why there's an association.

Recent studies suggest that sleep deprivation may increase the risk of high blood pressure (hypertension).

It is known that the prevalence of sleep disorders in children with autism is much higher than in the general population. So, one could ask whether the sleep disturbances seen are solely a consequence of the autism, or whether they not only coexist, but also play a role in strengthening some of autistic features. If that is the case, perhaps we should be more aggressive in treating sleep disorders in this population.

There are also important emotional symptoms of sleep deprivation. Emotional distress can take a brutal toll on our personal relationships and safety.Chronic sleep deprivation (going for extended periods of time with less sleep) can cause a variety of physical and psychological problems with more serious and significant long-term complications

A lot of times when work and other circumstances will result in foregoing an ideal slumber but knowing that sleep deprivation can be dangerous will help you know where to draw the line.

unearthing causes

2010-03-18T13:11:00.001-07:00

How many truths can your actions really unearth about you?

The actions or inactions of a person are numerous and complex.

Artists create their own myths and motifs to tell stories about themselves and their cultures. Whether you are a cook or a critic, the art expresses the artist as well, exclusive of, if he would have tried otherwise.Even if an artist is blocked by not enough time,not enough money or not enough talent, it is the fear of the outcome, whether it is good or bad.

Actions often trade the finding of your true self for the excess comfort. It is tempting to remove yourself ,without choosing to step out, in pursuit of what could be.

Truth always has a way of unearthing itself from the mass of suppression, for its backsliding and by consequence its pursuit. Accept your backsliding as normal while refusing to put yourself down for engaging in this.

Never say to yourself, I can't. I dont have it within me.

saint patrick's day

2010-03-17T14:53:00.000-07:00

Since it is a public holiday in Ireland, I am sure lot of people must have partaken in the festivities.

History is that this person tried to change and convert Pagans to Christians in the 5th century ,which must have been surely daunting.

He converted the nobles, who set an example which the people followed.He was very skillful in as much as he approached the chieftains first,converted and changed.

St. Patrick's mission was not only successful, Ireland was almost entirely Christian when he was alive.

The first hymn to be composed in Ireland was composed in his honor. It was called appropriately enough, Hymn in Patrick's Praise, was composed by St. Sechnall, and ran to 23 stanzas.

dark side

2010-03-16T13:00:00.000-07:00

How does he respond when he is frustrated by society that pens his existence ?

What if the focus was only the dark side ?

Stephen says "By bravely voicing our inner 'demons' -- symbolizing those tendencies in us that we most fear, flee from, and hence, are obsessed or haunted by -- we transmute them into helpful allies, in the form of newly liberated, life-giving psychic energy, for use in constructive activity."
During this alchemical activity, we come to discover the surprising paradox that many artists perceive: That which we had previously run from and rejected turns out to be the redemptive source of vitality, creativity, and authentic spirituality."

It is beneficial to discover dark, disordered fire of soul
because it is rightly known and rightly dealt with.

Shadow Dance article reprints "these are dark rejected aspects of our being as well as light, so there is positive undeveloped potential in the Shadow that we don’t know about.We are better knowing about dark side because as Jung put it “Whatever he does not live, lives against himself.”

how do you frame a question ?

2010-03-15T14:35:00.000-07:00

A group of young girls aspiring to be USHA gathered around in the athletics school to know directly from the legend herself. One girl spoke 'Athletes are not taken seriously. If I ask my partner what quality he finds appealing about me, without any action verb like running, the answer is 'how about when you are silent ?' Even though it is an oxymoron, you get what you ask for.'

Usha replied "I feel something is missing in my life if I do not run. In my entire sporting career, I achieved everything I aimed for, except an Olympic medal.

The feeling that I could not get one had been hurting me for long.That is why I came back to the field, soon after I became a mother, to train young athletes.

I was first inspired by Balakrishnan Nair, our physical education teacher. He made me run with the champion of the school -- one Baby Sarala.

We all have to start somewhere. for you this sounds peculiar. Next time ask in a different way to aid your question."

Soon, mood of the girl turned to quiz herself about how would she frame the question. She thought to herself framing a painting would have been easier.

mixed metaphors

2010-03-12T12:50:00.000-08:00

When people try to learn to converse in different cultures other than thier own, one of reasons could be because thier partners are interested and they just want to catch up.

Thier information could also be from any online resource. The level of attachment could differ from media hype, news, to "it is like 'I have nothing against it but that's not my liking'.

It is a minefield of various things that cultural differences exposes.

For instance, someone could be announcing in a local language that they are engaged after a wedding ceremony , a local custom. (it could happen...ha ha).

Misspellings happen everyday when not written in thier own language. For instance - Mardani ('manly woman') in hindi could mean different when typed Maar dani ('kill donor').

If you are not the intended audience, you mention it not and don't spoil the fun till the right time. This included are a lot of nuances to life where impatient optimism takes its toll.

headache

2010-03-11T10:23:00.000-08:00

Headaches of parents when they are dealing with
2 or numerous kids, is substantial,
although to some headaches are not cause for worry.
Advil, coffee,tylenol, excederin, exercises on sides causing the issue......may not be easily accessible.

Aftermath of dealing with a kid's tantrum is one of the numero reasons of such headaches, parents don't know how to bring themselves back to thier healthy self, since they are already tired or overwhelmed or over-worked.

Numerous Triggers could lead to headaches. Find out what your normal headache triggers are and if there is anyway to handle it.

If you know everytime, when you are spending time with your niece or nephew or neighbour' s kid, your kid starts throwing tantrums and runs off to play with kid across your home, which you had warned not to,
is it the same time when your kid wants to be independent from you and also anyone you want to be associated with ?

Next time ask , talk to the kid about the details of his unsafe association and what his likes and dislikes are. You might get a better idea to distill/discuss differences to him about his unsafe association.

When facts are thrown at you , which you cannot immediately substantiate, you tend to react instead of act. Telling your numerous children that you have a headache, could even make them act, by helping in little ways.

Diary of headaches could also help in knowing the frequency or atleast help a doctor in diagnosis of any issues like undiagnosed toxemia,migraine........

Simple accupressure / reiki techniques, by your nearest professional, could be learnt by you, in order to administer it yourself, when required.

Have an easy parenting day.

blunders

2010-03-10T06:26:00.000-08:00

"Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Knowledge without character, Commerce without morality , Science without humanity, Worship without sacrifice, Politics without principle , Rights without Responsibilities, Power without Charity " are usually which comes quickly to mind.

Each profession has its own blunders, sometimes it can be avoided and sometimes it is inadvertent.Here are few excerpts from writing:

* Me : "Um — wait. How could you not see that XXX was YYY and ZZZ?"

Them: "Because you didn't put it on the page. "

* Confused? So was the journalist who unearthed the blunder on page 122 of Levy's slim new treatise called On War in Philosophy. There, Lévy quotes the fine insights of a French writer named Jean-Baptiste Botul on the 18th-century German philosopher Immanuel Kant. But Botul, it turns out, is not a real person — he's a fictional character created five years ago by Frédéric Pagès, a journalist at the French satirical weekly Le Canard Enchaîné. Using Botul as a pseudonym, Pagès published a verbose book on Kant in 1999, which was intended to be a playful dig at French intellectuals. "Everyone knew it was a joke," says Pierre Assouline, author of The Republic of Books, a blog published by France's biggest daily, Le Monde. "All BHL had to do was to Google Botul, and he would have known in 10 minutes it was a fake." (Botul even has his own French Wikipedia page, which describes him as fictitious.)

* Two dozen lawyers get together at the Drake Hotel over there on Park Avenue. And they're having some kind of big lawyer luncheon, whatever the hell these guys do. And they had the food catered in and they got sick, really sick. Did you hear about this, food poisoning? They had some kind of seared tuna deal that wasn't seared or something, I don't know. Two dozen attorneys came down with food poisoning - had to be taken to the hospital. Gosh, I wonder if they have any plans to sue?"

* Dowd borrows from TPM (by way of “friend”): New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd is a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer. So the fact that she had borrowed a passage nearly verbatim from Talking Points Memo inevitably drew attention, and the reason she gave — that a “friend” had sent it to her — failed to end the minicontroversy. While the Times corrected the column, the paper wouldn’t answer whether it’s accepted policy to allow columnists to use passages from others without any attribution. The episode was also a bit ironic considering that Dowd was the one who reported on Joe Biden plagiarizing a British politician just over two decades earlier.

* When Louisiana Gov. Bobby Jindal walked out to respond to Obama’s speech before Congress in February, someone on MSNBC uttered “Oh God.” The author blogged that it was Olbermann, before listening again and writing a few minutes later that who said it was unclear (Indeed, it was actually Chris Matthews.). It landed the author on Olbermann’s “world’s worst person” list the following night. After explaining the mistake in a subsequent blog post, there was redemption — the author was on the next night’s “best persons” list.

* Teleprompt blunder

It is time to retrace hardly few pages written in this blog for any such blunders.

yourself to the abundance of the universe.

2010-03-09T17:59:00.000-08:00

This title was borrowed from a website.

Americans like lot of other people have this distinct privacy issues which seems to encompass not only thier private lives but even extend to public places.

If you happen to come across anyone/ stranger / someone you know,
whether
> they are dating few, dating many,
> on a date with one of the many,
> 2 people strolling with 10 kids in 10 strollers ,
>or just a kid out playing on the street,
>or homeless guy......................

do you just snare and make a remark as to why the hell did they cross us ?
ofcourse, people lead busy lives with tensions falling off the sky every second
or they could be threats to your well-being.

However, can you stop, greet, meet life around you or
why can't you just let it not bother, try atleast to enjoy yourselves and your company.

“ Life is full of beauty.
Notice it, the small child, and the smiling faces.
Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams."

labels or not ?

2010-03-09T16:58:00.000-08:00

If you do not want a label attached to you by anyone
such as a mom / dad / dating few / dating many / prince / princess,
then why would you label others by starting a conversation / if you have nothing else on the topic,
address others as gay / lesbian / childless / vegan ?

The way you may not like 'polyamory', 'divorcee' , or 'separated' attached to you
instead of 'open' or 'single' ,'not vegan food',
the same way people may not like stickers attached with labels of 'meat-hater' or 'monogamous'.

How far can you stop labels ? will it be only 'relationships' or is it more ?

If you go to a clothing store,will you stop labelling ones you may not like as 'Yikes' /ones you like as 'Cool' ?
Just because you have 'yikes' clothes in front of you for an hour, will you like it enough to buy it ? Not sure.

Someone told me ' it's just in your head'.

'bring your kids to work' day

2010-03-09T16:10:00.000-08:00

It is not even Apr 22, and surprise many parents brought thier kids to places where they work.

A Co-worker was walking with something in hand, I thought it must be gloves for the cold snowy weather here or extra set of work papers. But I was surprised, it was a small kid with .....
So, as others approached closer, co-worker become over-cuddly and protective of thier kid/themselves. Parents will always be parents.

Erika had mentioned she was busy with work and all the travelling she had do. Why do I wish my friends had brought their kids along? anyway, someone just told me ' Be careful of what you wish'.

If the same parent can smile at a stranger in a bar, why are they over-protective with thier kids at work place?

Parents will always be parents.

My mantra is 'Relax' which not many listen to.

extra extra

2010-03-09T05:00:00.000-08:00

men can have more children with multiple partners than women with multiple partners.

women earn less (probably 1/10th) of what men earn.

extras(children, money) should be given away to those in need, isn't it ?

return after break

2010-03-03T00:16:00.000-08:00

It's not that we have to rely on one single thing. Difficult to return especially if you have not for several days.Transition to a habit or schedule needs to be charted enough not to dampen.

take a break

2010-03-03T00:06:00.000-08:00

How about the rest of the week for me ?

An article will follow as to how it was.

That is definite.

openness or closedness

2010-03-03T00:02:00.001-08:00

Open or closed ?

1. obviously if your are open, there's no closure

2. if your are temporarily closed ( to talk, remain silent......),
you are clearly not open !

3. if you are comfortable being 'open' about yourself, then how is discussing even 'secrets' about yourself with others - a violation of your privacy?

4. if you do not want to be 'open' temporarily, then you are 'closed'
temporarily. if you 'reopen' the closed topics at your leisure, can you be met with 'closed' not 'open'.

5. is it true that permanent closure sometimes is only when a person dies?

unhappiness

2010-03-03T00:01:00.001-08:00

List of books on this subject in no particular order -

"Biological Unhappiness"
by Dr. Leland M. Heller fills a large void in the medical field, not only in diagnosing the senseless years of chaos, emotional pain, rejection sensitivity, etc. affecting every area of life, but in their treatment as well.It can help make this suffering stop. It provides hope to all of us that suffer needlessly.

"Addicted to Unhappiness"
by Martha Heineman Pieper and William J. Pieper gives you effective strategies to help you recognize and overcome the learned need to undermine your constructive efforts. Using real-life examples drawn from their clinical experience, the authors provide insights and suggestions that help you choose and maintain the happiness you deserve.

"The Pursuit of Unhappiness The Elusive Psychology of Well-Being"
by Daniel M. Haybron is a model of humanistic inquiry: acute philosophical argumentation disciplined by close and careful attention to the latest and best in the sciences of mind, everywhere textured by a keen eye for what it is to be a person--and why it matters.It is written in an engaging, often humorous, sometimes poetic, style, and contains a wealth of illustrations from life, literature, film, science, the arts, the news media, and Haybron's own prodigious imagination --Neera Badhwar, Notre Dame Philosophical Reviews.

chinese dance

2010-03-03T00:00:00.000-08:00

elusive

2010-03-02T23:52:00.000-08:00

It is more often than not, we tend to habitually trespass an indivisual's lifestyle.

Slowness dawns while trying to convey an idea, you are lost in translation.

Trying to establish an order reclaims the uncertainty.

Retracting one's own comment to revise could not assert the same.

Don't be tempted to equate transient domination with either intrinsic superiority or prospects for extended survival.

Engaging people as part of that might reduce the unavoidable interruption.

how bad could it be ?

2010-03-02T11:13:00.003-08:00

Exiguous bad may have no effect.

Science negative usually cancels positive bringing back to your original natural self.
Similarly, if there is a bad, there may be a negative of bad as well.

Delude that every single person you meet has a sign that says, ''Make me feel important.''

It could mean worst things are over.

It may be maternity hospital logo of "No children allowed."

All of us have bad. If you persist through the bad - and it is you who is there when the fortune emerges, ready and determined to receive it.

Blessings in Disguise

2010-03-01T21:20:00.000-08:00

It was not so much seeking/give advice but to help to create a meaningful life. Shelagh Little

What do you know like...? Why is it “not for you”? I too wish I had a roadmap of how to live life without , the life that isn’t mapped out by their next phase of development. Judy

You describe all of the things that make you want happiness, family, love, fufillment. You can have all of these things. I’m sorry you had such a hard experience – but you do not have to give up. It is a wonderful thing and if you can make yourself happy then you should. Elizabeth R

I was willing to sacrifice a career and purpose outside of family life for the dream, with that gone I am free to navigate down the journey of my dreams and I feel it is my true calling.Jane

You write you have become ambivalent, and it shows.Annie44

You need to be honest and admit that being is their choice. ML

I am puzzled by the your rejection of “risky,” certainly, but no riskier than else, who come with all manner of surprises and challenges. Kathy

There are no rules. The world is your oyster, whether you want it or not – you choose to want it.As time passes your perspective will broaden and your sensitivity will decrease.VS

Although you say you never looked back, everything you did says so.Suzanne

You will be the odd woman out.It is not that you have a stigma attached to you becuase you are, it is becuase you are living in the wrong. This is not your better or worse.I wouldn’t tell anyone but really, maybe you should consider it.You too know that you may change your mind about down the road. CC I

Sadly, I discovered there is no roadmap.It’s a make-it-up-as-you-go situation. J.Hamilton

I seriously considered it and am still considering it in the future. Marcia

What do I want, why do I want it, and what am I willing to do to get it?” — works for you, it can also help resolve many other situations, especially where multiple priorities are competing for limited resources.MT

My wife rates that difference as a plus, but everything else is wonderfully the same. And when it isn’t the
same–it’s different but equally valuable that was the road not taken.Steve cook

I do remember being embarrassed to tell a friend who was suffering, that I was… so easy was it to do, taking
no brains whatever.. Norma Manna Blum

Who’s gonna sign your report card and help you find the other turquoise Barbie shoe? That's not lost.it’s not
about you. It’s about them. Wendy Rogers

You are disconnected with the human condition if you think you “don’t relate and have nothing to add” caralea

Harsh to hear or not, these are a matter of convenience, not necessity. gabriel

If I ever face in the future, I will turn to these very encouraging thoughts.Lucia

The lack of sensitivity is mind-boggling. cathy c

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln

For many complex and personal reasons that she may not have had space or reason to simply reached the conclusion that it was not the appropriate path for her.BW

None of these ninny parents opining on this have any idea what they are talking about and, honestly, hoping to be understood by them is futile. No Name

you would know you had run this thing into the ground – that you have gone to the nth degree to make peace with that decision, but that does not mean that you will ever be at peace with being, you struggle with it every day. In a crazy way, it has been a blessing. I am a deeper, more thoughtful, fuller person for having gone through it. I found that happiness will not come from outside. It has to come from inside…..while there must be a safe, empathetic space in which to explore all of life’s miseries and depressions and unfairness, there also must be a place where we listen to and examine the rest of what life has to offer, the other options and choices, the full range of possibilities.Because sometimes we just have to let it go and yes, move on, do without, make do, find another way, get over it.— EuripidesTheYounger

Lord in Heaven, No! must be a special kind of hell for someone like you. And it’s not a lot of fun for the rest of us, either.Mike

Fantasy is striving that would have been different and better. Everyone should be so blessed as to have a friend like you! Zero empathy for those wanting and unwilling. Tell them to keep your mouth shut. It’s none of your business. Megan

I don’t even dare to forward your essay to her out of fear how she will react.I hope she comes to that realization soon as well.In civil society…you often have to grin and bear things. Maybe someday you’ll be able to open your heart to other possibilites.Chantel

There are people who gasp do wish and those who do not wish are sorely mistaken and misinformed.
— Bruce Steven Dolin, Psy.D.

It seems that not getting what you thought you wanted has helped you become a more compassionate and self-expressed person. caralea To day reading the Chilean news paper,it does get better.marcelo Ansieta
Don’t listen to the naysayers here – they don’t understand. Feel what you feel and find your way in the world.Lol..May it have delights you yet envision is a remarkable articulate statement of the difficulties and discoveries.

drug test

2010-03-01T11:52:00.000-08:00

The lack of forensic resources and technology to routinely and rapidly test for drugs limit efforts to accurately document the scope of the problem/enforce DUID laws. Significant drug testing technological advances in during the last five years has not been integrated into DUID enforcement/crash investigations.

However, the forensic community needs to take a look at the new technology like POCT and attempt to integrate this technology with lab testing into a more efficient and cost-effective system.

Parents are largely unaware that so many kids think doing drugs is no big deal.

A majority of the teens thought they'd been using opium — a "natural" and therefore, in their uninformed opinion, less harmful drug — and struggled with the reality that that was black tar heroin.

Most students met only with the dealers' local contacts, some connected one-on-one with the dealers themselves.

We just don't want our friends to die.

Endangerment

2010-02-27T17:29:00.000-08:00

As an exchange student, you would know how much rewarding time of study and cultural enrichment.

How would you mind minor violations as Lana Simovic of Podgorica, Montenegro says her son was sent home by his exchange agency after only two months for what she described as relatively minor rules violations, prompting a State Department inquiry into the program's actions.

You could be on providing a platform for youth leadership development, an opportunity to be global citizens, to change the world, and to get experience and skills that matter today.

You could become not only part of another culture but also of your host family.

You could also learn about yourself and become a better, more confident person.

riesgos tracas

2010-02-25T12:30:00.000-08:00

Why are English houses so unsturdy? Because they are built anglais / en glace.

Why are Japanese houses unstable? Because they have names like 'nikumo nikado' (In Tamil, this phrase translates into "Looks like its going to fall")

A man's house is his hassle.

caution

2010-02-24T13:40:00.001-08:00

People tell you not to be influenced by the personalities of your co-workers.

To what extent can that be true?

If you are in the same environment even when you may or may not interact, you do exchange opinions consistently.

It is not what you decide to do with them, but how to handle them.

If it is not a matter you like, there is always this ‘in one ear and out the other.’

Street Signs

2010-02-23T11:01:00.000-08:00

The road to hell may be paved with works-in-progress.
Nowadays,'live, let live' has digressed to something discreet.

Street signs warn you 'work in progress'.Whether you are handling a business or an errand , may be sign to tell the people after acknowledging them, hey don't intervene&now 'Iam invisible'.

Efficient

2010-02-23T11:00:00.000-08:00

An Email - This may or may not be up-todate info as time taken to sign and write is enormous.

Phone - It is not really used due to inconvenience if you are already busy with kids, business and life.

Twitter - how much can not be averted,said, trembled,missed and torn causing tantrums.

Chat - time is spent assuming, cocooning unnecessarily.

Texting - while texting, if you are driving, diving, dreaming, doodling, disagreeing, it may be risky.

which is efficient ?

Shows

2010-02-22T14:10:00.000-08:00

What is it that brings people to shows like dog shows, art exhibition...... ?

Sadie the Scottie terrier won the Westminster Dog Show 2010. It is not only Sadie but also the trainer which took home the prize, and not 'Sadie' anymore.

Davis musuem has 19th-century prints show produced in Germany for export to India.Here, it is not the origin of the print objects but the European's expertise which is being showcased.

detach

2010-02-19T09:20:00.000-08:00

Shishir, an illustration artist has his animalistic entry of detachment.

Shannon has a piece of the puzzle which is detached from the rest of the puzzle.

Sole truth of truly detaching is self interest and time as to let feelings to dissolve a little more naturally.

Commit to the process, detach from the outcome as Michael recommends.

Holding on to your awareness as Linda appraises and decides.

desire

2010-02-18T12:29:00.000-08:00

News today brings in different issues to limelight.

Is desire the root cause of evil ?

Harini insists
'We indulge ourselves in habits. When have we , ever known , what to want ?
The joy of working justly is contingent upon achieving the results we want. It is what one makes of it. We are enabled to get what we need.'

limit

2010-02-16T19:56:00.000-08:00

There are times when situations make you wait or stop as if it were impossible.

There seems to be a limit after which expiry date seems to be in effect.

“To suffering there is a limit;
to fearing, none.”

no real end ?

2010-02-16T13:33:00.000-08:00

Autisticdad blog posts have these statements
" It is time to end this blog. So it is. This is a realistic nightmare where a dream should be. Don’t take this wrong, not any of your business. I’ve made my mind up and I know: there will be other bloggers. And don’t listen to &^*%$#@, you can’t fix autism.Good luck to each and all of you. I just think blogging about it is an invasion of their privacy. I will miss writing to anyone who was interested in reading. Good bye for now."

After reading this, I just hope that this autistic family are doing just fine.

It is not that 'there is no cure for somethings in life' which is why blogs are stopped, it is the 'stress surrounding' it makes you to end.

The rewards weren't just enough for the blogger to spend the time.

Drive on the priorities makes you change without even you knowing it. 'What's next' impedes genres of juxtaposed pros and cons.

It may be "relatively new" but who knows this family may be blogging in a different blog without recycling or restoring the history of the earlier blogs.

la

2010-02-15T14:12:00.000-08:00

How about lyrics, just to note the ones, who didn't forget your interests, even with their busy lives, today and yesterday?

yuun hii chala chal raahii...
barii rangiin hai yeh duniya
jo tuu sada sune apne man kii
yuun hii chala chal raahii...
tuu jis disha bhii jaa, tuu pyaar hii luTa

keep roaming thus oh traveler...
how wonderful is this world
when you listen to your heart
keep roaming thus oh traveler...
wherever you go, may you always find

religion to be

2010-02-13T13:01:00.000-08:00

Whenever any religion is spoken about, only things that comes to mind is all the fight in Jerusalem or kids losing thier parents or two adults who cannot be married.

However I just read an article where three religions pray at the same place. It is a wonder how that even is possible.

What about all the times when timings don't go well or events do not happen as authorities would have thought so or even then it is admirable that is so.

I will post the link to the article as I misplaced it.

If you guys find it before me, just send it here.

don't debate

2010-02-12T06:26:00.000-08:00

There are days when people tell you 'don't do this' or 'this is the only way you could reach me' or 'don't even bother if you can't'.

It certainly gets your nerve and people throw tantrums if you let them.

It does help being diplomatic and being absent in the same way they do.

If there are 40 people with 40 topics not debatable as chosen by them, you will be lighter and crack up only on those which you can.

Act don't react.

link

2010-02-11T14:09:00.000-08:00

It is like a huge chain which charts chumpily as soon as you read something.One of my friends is from Canada and how it meshes well with French in its own way.It's true that many people have similar traits so recognizable.

Anyway, it is Poutine which I heard is famous there, similar to French fries with a specialty thrown in. It is topped with fresh cheese curd, and additional ingredients.Those of you , like me, who don't know what cheese curd is, it is fresh curds of cheese ideally eaten within hours, else it is refrigerated.

Even though this is the origin,they do share their past with French and still exist.

Can you ever acknowledge that you were never influenced by anyone who were ever associated with you ?

Still have nagging persistent doubts ?

A canuck would say cheeese!

nataraja dance

2010-02-10T13:34:00.000-08:00

Some dance forms are more prevalent than the others like Nataraja in India.

What is it that draws the crowd to a dance? Is it the running away from mundane things of life ? Is it just a sheer exercise / art which justifies it ?

You could lose yourself to it or enjoy being yourself or just be there for the artist.

Is there a dangerous form of dance where it is chaos?

Shimmy dance which airs in FitTV features Arabic,Egyptian and Turkish energetic styles that is elegant and tries to meet your everyday exercise quota. As the dancers say 'it is exciting , lively n exhilarating.'
Does dance break you or shimmy you?

one cent

2010-02-09T12:43:00.000-08:00

Change is nice, isn't it ? (no, they don't mean break a twenty-dollar bill; next time someone says 'they don't want to change', pass that buck to me, will ya? ha ha..) ; and to hear spring singing including 'I ain't changing.'
Usually people mean to say if you expect me to be like her in abilities, why now? Message is 'dance to my wavelength and you will hear me.' Otherwise, no way, even God cannot!

Change is already up in the air when they start talking about how they won't change. when they start evaluating your talk , they are considering what is good for them and what they don't have, all the while they shut themselves.

Other message sent across is 'this is the only mode I will get across; So get my limitations and work with me to suit yourself.'

Once you know their boundaries, let them be themselves, in the fence they built for themselves. It is actually easy now, that you just have to act like your all ears to them.

is this race?

2010-02-08T13:56:00.000-08:00

Can you ignore the brags and boasts of recent triumphs by people far more often than you can share your own ? They may be in competition with you in an area of importance.

The Competitor may find this distinctive personality trait hard or impossible to change or eradicate.

Is there a need to compete with everything you say or do?
or just be silent without a word about it and get defensive about yourself ?
Do you keep your disappointments about this to yourself?

couple

2010-02-06T11:08:00.000-08:00

Is this true - only those who are couples, fight and make up later?

If the term 'couple' as defined in 'urban dictionary' refers to 2 people that are in a relationship , then it entirely upto those two who are in the relationship.

However if 'couple' is as in Merriam Webster dictionary, it is two persons married, engaged, or otherwise romantically paired. This includes a lot more people than the earlier one. Encompassing whoever two people are being linked to, it again depends on the nature of the people involved.

Thanks to Brett R. William of www.helptalking.com who asks you to stop fighting and start talking.

yawn

2010-02-06T11:04:00.000-08:00

Iam not sure where I found this pic. But it sure does apply here that if Iam not yawn'ing, I will continue to blog.